Friday Favorites: Hair and Skin Care

Friday, September 15, 2017

Some products just do what they say and are worth every penny, here are a few of my favorites for my skin and hair:

Beautiful Curls Defining Gel by Alaffia

I posted recently about folks who have an obsession with relaxed edges. When I do moisturize my edges and want them laid, I use this Alaffia moisturizing and curl defining gel. It’s a wondrous product, there is no build-up and it is all natural.

Andalou 1,000 Roses Body Lotion 
This lotion is light, moisturizing, plant-based and it has the loveliest smell.

Flow Water

Alkaline water for the win! I love this boxed water from Flow!

Alkaline water is different from tap water because it's less acidic—it has a pH over seven, meaning that it has a lower concentration of hydrogen ions. In chemistry all liquids have some level of acidity, as determined by the pH scale. The pH measures the concentration of hydrogen ions in the liquid, which is expressed on a scale of 0-14, with anything under seven (like black coffee, orange juice, and vinegar) is acidic, seven is neutral and above seven (like baking soda) is alkaline territory.

Benefits of Alkaline Water include:

  • Soothing acid reflux 
  • neutralize acid in the bloodstream, which leads to increased oxygen levels and improved energy and metabolism
  • anti-aging and anti-disease
  • cleanses the colon
  • rejuvenates the skin
  • lubricates muscles and joints

Tru-Colour Bandages

Tru-Colour bandages for every skin tone and I love them!

Use the coupon code "raisingself10" for a discount at

(We are not wearing our exact banadge colors so that they WILL show up better on Photo.)


Monday, September 04, 2017

Today is BEYONCÉ's birthday, an unofficial holiday for die hard fans, with #BeyDay unsurprisingly trending on Twitter, but what I'm loving most is the tribute the awesome women/girls in her life are paying her for her birthday, including the Queen of all life goals MICHELLE OBAMA:


I am sure there will be much criticism for her involvement in this birthday celebration, but former First Lady Obama has endured 8+ years of scrutiny, sexism and racism so let her live! I am so excited about all the great things she will likely accomplish post presidency.

Some of the other favorites are from (Beyonce's daughter) Blue Ivy, (her step-sister) Bianca Lawson from the hit show Queen Sugar, Kelly Rowland, and Serena Williams.

See photos all of the birthday tribute photos here...

Sex Your Husband September

Sunday, September 03, 2017, a website about career, marriage and motherhood, shared a post about intimacy and specifically sex in marriage:

"During the honeymoon phase, intimacy was the rule and not the exception. I wanted to hold my love's hand. I wanted to lean in close to him while watching tv or reading a book or surfing the internets. I wanted to snuggle into him while dozing off. But life happened: bills, kids, career, election 2016, and it chipped away at my capacity for intimacy and many forms of physical affection. It stopped being something fun, something relaxing and this exciting and beautiful part of our love; for no other reason than it was something I stopped being intentional about."

The point of Sex Your Husband September is removing the barriers of intimacy in your marriage. So barring illness or emergency, we are going to be intimate daily. That means

  • hand holding
  • french kissing
  • butt grabbing
  • couch cuddling
  • couples showering

Here's the Plan

  1. Not mentioning Sex Husband September and seeing if he mentions anything (less pressure and more fun)
  2. Increasing PDA (public displays of affection)
  3. Say yes (All ya gotta do is SAY YES)
  4. Initiate interaction
  5. Quickies when time is short or I'm exhausted or annoyed or wanting to read in bed
  6. Journaling, just to see if this "exercise" activates any thoughts, emotions or creative juices
  7. Daily intimacy

I'm participating, there are so many great things in my marriage and something I definitely need to be intentional about is intimacy in all of its wondrous forms.

See full article for details and let me know what you think, considering in participating in Sex Your Husband September, let me know in the comments below.

Relaxed Edges and Locs

Monday, August 21, 2017

Someone recently reached out to me via social media declaring that they are interested in locs but they wanted to continue to have laid edges. They were wondering if it was a good idea to

  1. Leave most of their edges out of the locing process and/or
  2. Relax their edges

A while back I learned that a blogger, who's natural hair I admired, relaxed her edges and I was legit shocked. For me, a huge plus of locs and other forms of natural hair is avoiding harsh chemicals like relaxers. It had never dawned on me to even relax only my edges aka a halo relaxer.

To each their own, but after doing a little bit of research, I would NOT recommend for the following reasons:
  1. It can be damaging. Relaxing the edges alone will likely lead to breakage and thinning along your hairline
  2. It can look like a hot mess
  3. Many note that their edges revert to their original state only a week or so after relaxing

Alternatives to a halo relaxer:

  • Edge control gel, an oldie but a goodie and it really does work, even without pushing back your hairline with overly tight scarves.

  • Old nylons/hosiery and a good moisturizer or conditioning gel
  • Coming to peace with your nappy edges

I kind of blame lace-front wigs with baby hair attachments,  I personally haven't had baby hair since I was a baby and I somehow manage to be a healthy and well adjusted adult.

I slightly laid my edges just for you in this photo by using applying Alaffia Curl Defining gel  to wet hair and wearing a nylon scarf while getting ready in the morning for work.

About Me

Corporate Chic. Natural Living Advocate. Freelance Writer. Speaker. Social Media Addict. Bookworm. Wanderer.

When I'm not working crazy hours for my corporate finance gig, I'm toiling away as an evening entrepreneur and making random hair and skin care products from scratch. I started in 2010 to chronicle my natural hair journey and it has grown into so much more.
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